PART III.
CONTAINING COUNSELS CONCERNING THE PRACTICE
OF VIRTUE.
CHAPTER I.
How to select that which we should chiefly
Practise.
THE queen bee never takes wing without
being surrounded by all her Subjects;
even so Love never enters the heart but it is
sure to bring all other virtues in its train;
marshalling and employing them as a captain
his soldiers; yet, nevertheless, Love does not
set them all to work suddenly, or equal]y, at all
times and everywhere. The righteous man is
"like a tree planted by the water side, that will
bring forth his fruit in due season;"' inasmuch
as Love, watering and refreshing the soul, causes
it to bring forth good works, each in season
as required. There is an old proverb to the
effect that the sweetest music is unwelcome at
1 Ps. i. 3.
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a time of mourning; and certain persons have
made a great mistake when, seeking to cultivate
some special virtue, they attempt to obtrude it
on all occasions, like the ancient philosophers
we read of, who were always laughing or weeping.
Worse still if they take upon themselves to
censure those who do not make a continual
study of this their pet virtue. S. Paul tells us
to rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep
with them that weep;" 1 and Charity is patient,
kind, liberal, prudent, indulgent.
At the same time, there are virtues of universal
account, which must not only be called into
occasional action, but ought to spread their
influence over everything. We do not very
often come across opportunities for exercising
strength, magnanimity, or magnificence; but
gentleness, temperance, modesty, and humility,
are graces which ought to colour everything we
do. There may be virtues of a more exalted
mould, but at all events these are the most continually called for in daily life. Sugar is better
than salt, but we use salt more generally and
oftener. Consequently, it is well to have a
good and ready stock in hand of those general
virtues of which we stand in so perpetual a
need.
In practising any virtue, it is well to choose
1 Rom. xii. 15.
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that which is most according to our duty,
rather than most according to our taste. It
was Saint Paula's liking to practise bodily
mortifications with a view to the keener enjoyment of spiritual sweetness, but obedience to
her superiors was a higher duty; and therefore
Saint Jerome acknowledges that she was wrong
in practising excessive abstinence contrary to the
advice of her Bishop. And the Apostles, whose
mission it was to preach the Gospel, and feed
souls with the Bread of Life, judged well that
it was not right for them to hinder this holy
work in order to minister to the material wants
of the poor, weighty as that work was also. 1
Every calling stands in special need of some
special virtue; those required of a prelate, a
prince, or a soldier, are quite different; so
are those beseeming a wife or a widow, and
although all should possess every virtue, yet all
are not called upon to exercise them equally,
but each should cultivate chiefly those which
are important to the manner of life to which he
is called.
Among such virtues as have no special adaptation to our own calling, choose the most
excellent, not the most showy. A comet generally looks larger than the stars, and fills the eye
more; but all the while comets are not nearly so
1 Acts vi. 2.
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important as the stars, and only seem so large
to us because they are nearer to us than stars,
and are of a grosser kind. So there are certain
virtues which touch us very sensibly and are
very material, so to say, and therefore ordinary
people give them the preference. Thus the
common run of men ordinarily value temporal
almsgiving more than spiritual; and think
more of fasting, exterior discipline and bodily
mortification than of meekness, cheerfulness,
modesty, and other interior mortifications, which
nevertheless are far better. Do you then, my
daughter, choose the best virtues, not those
which are most highly esteemed; the most
excellent, not the most visible; the truest, not
the most conspicuous.
It is well for everybody to select some special
virtue at which to aim, not as neglecting any
others, but as an object and pursuit to the mind.
Saint John, Bishop of Alexandria, saw a vision
of a lovely maiden, brighter than the sun, in
shining garments, and wearing an olive crown,
who said to him, "I am the King's eldest
daughter, and if thou wilt have me for thy friend,
I will bring thee to see His Face." Then he
knew that it was pity for the poor which God
thus commended to him, and from that time he
gave himself so heartily to practise it, that he is
universally known as Saint John the Almoner.
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Eulogius Alexandrinus desired to devote himself
wholly to God, but he had not courage either to
adopt the solitary life, or to put himself under
obedience, and therefore he took a miserable
beggar, seething in dirt and leprosy, to live with
him; and to do this more thoroughly, he vowed
to honour and serve him as a servant does his lord
and master. After a while, both feeling greatly
tempted to part company, they referred to the
great Saint Anthony, who said, "Beware of
separating, my sons, for you are both near your
end, and if the Angel find you not together, you
will be in danger of losing your crowns."
Saint Louis counted it a privilege to visit
the hospitals, where he used to tend the sick
with his own royal hands. Saint Francis loved
poverty above all things, and called her his
lady-love. Saint Dominic gave himself up to
preaching, whence his Order takes its name. 1
Saint Gregory the Great specially delighted to
receive pilgrims after the manner of faithful
Abraham, and like him entertained the King of
Glory under a pilgrim's garb. Tobit devoted
himself to the charitable work of burying the
dead. Saint Elizabeth, albeit a mighty princess,
loved above all things to humble herself. When
Saint Catherine of Genoa became a widow,
she gave herself up to work in an hospital.
1 The Preaching Friars.
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Cassian relates how a certain devout maiden
once besought Saint Athanasius to help her in
cultivating the grace of patience; and he gave
her a poor widow as companion, who was cross,
irritable, and altogether intolerable, and whose
perpetual fretfulness gave the pious lady abundant opportunity of practising gentleness and
patience. And so some of God's servants
devote themselves to nursing the sick, helping
the poor, teaching little children in the faith,
reclaiming the fallen, building churches, and
adorning the altar, making peace among men.
Therein they resemble embroidresses who work
all manner of silks, gold and silver on various
grounds, so producing beautiful flowers. Just
so the pious souls who undertake some special
devout practice use it as the ground of their
spiritual embroidery, and frame all manner of
other graces upon it, ordering their actions and
affections better by means of this their chief
thread which runs through all.
"Upon Thy Right Hand did stand the Queen
in a vesture of gold wrought about with divers
colours." 1
When we are beset by any particular vice, it
is well as far as possible to make the opposite
1 Psalm xlv. 12.
"En son beau vestement de drap d'or recame,
Et d'ouvrages divers a l'aiguile seme."
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virtue our special aim, and turn everything to
that account; so doing, we shall overcome our
enemy, and meanwhile make progress in all
virtue. Thus, if I am beset with pride or anger,
I must above all else strive to cultivate humility
and gentleness, and I must turn all my religious
exercises,--prayer, sacraments, prudence, constancy, moderation, to the same object. The
wild boar sharpens its tusks by grinding them
against its other teeth, which by the same pro-.
cess are sharpened and pointed; and so when
a good man endeavours to perfect himself in
some virtue which he is conscious of specially
needing, he ought to give it edge and point
by the aid of other virtues, which will themselves be confirmed and strengthened as he uses
them with that object. It was so with Job, who,
while specially exercising the virtue of patience
amid the numberless temptations which beset
him, was confirmed in all manner of holiness and
godly virtues. And Saint Gregory Nazianzen
says, that sometimes a person has attained the
height of goodness by one single act of virtue,
performed with the greatest perfection; instancing Rahab as an example, who, having practised
the virtue of hospitality very excellently, reached
a high point of glory.' Of course, any such
1 S. Francis evideistly alludes here to the mention made of Rahab
by S. Paul. Heb. xi. 31.
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action must needs be performed with a very
exceeding degree of fervour and charity.
CHAPTER II.
The same Subject continued.
SAINT AUGUSTINE says very admirably,
that beginners in devotion are wont to cornmit certain faults which, while they are blameable
according to the strict laws of perfection, are yet
praiseworthy by reason of the promise they hold
forth of a future excellent goodness, to which
they actually tend. For instance, that common
shrinking fear which gives rise to an excessive
scrupulosity in the souls of some who are but
just set free from a course of sin, is commendable
at that early stage, and is the almost certain
forerunner of future purity of conscience. But
this same fear would be blameable in those who
are farther advanced, because love should reign
in their hearts, and love is sure to drive away
all such servile fear by degrees.
In his early days, Saint Bernard was very
severe and harsh towards those whom he directed,
telling them, to begin with, that they must put
aside the body, and come to him with their
minds only. In confession, he treated all faults,
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however small, with extreme severity, and his
poor apprentices in the study of perfection were
so urged onwards, that by dint of pressing he
kept them back, for they lost heart and breath
when they found themselves thus driven up so
steep and high an ascent. Therein, my daughter,
you can see that, although it was his ardent
zeal for the most perfect purity which led that
great Saint so to act, and although such zeal is
a great virtue, still it was a virtue which required
checking. And so God Himself checked it in a
vision, by which He filled S. Bernard with so
gentle, tender, and loving a spirit, that he was
altogether changed, blaming himself heavily
for having been so strict and so severe, and
becoming so kindly and indulgent, that he
made himself all things to all men in order to
win all.
S. Jerome tells us that his beloved daughter,
S. Paula, was not only extreme, but obstinate in
practising bodily mortifications, and refusing to
yield to the advice given her upon that head by
her Bishop, S. Epiphanius; and furthermore,
she gave way so excessively to her grief at the
death of those she loved as to peril her own
life. Whereupon S. Jerome says: "It will be
said that I am accusing this saintly woman
rather than praising her, but I affirm before
Jesus, Whom she served, and Whom I seek to
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serve, that I am not saying what is untrue on
one side or the other, but simply describing her
as one Christian another; that is to say, I am
writing her history, not her panegyric, and her
faults are the virtues of others." He means to
say that the defects and faults of S. Paula would
have been looked upon as virtues in a less
perfect soul; and indeed there are actions which
we must count as imperfections in the perfect,
which yet would be highly esteemed in the
imperfect. When at the end of a sickness the
invalid's legs swell, it is a good sign, indicating
that natural strength is returning, and throwing
off foul humours; but it would be a bad sign in
one not avowedly sick, as showing that nature
was too feeble to disperse or absorb those
humours.
So, my child, we must think well of those
whom we see practising virtues, although imperfectly, since the Saints have done the like; but
as to ourselves we must give heed to practise
them, not only diligently, but discreetly, and to
this end we shall do well strictly to follow the
Wise Man's counsel, 1 and not trust in our own
wisdom, but lean on those whom God has given
as our guides. And here I must say a few words
concerning certain things which some reckon as
virtues, although they are nothing of the sort--I
1 Eccles. vi. 2, 32, 36.
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mean ecstasies, trances, rhapsodies, extraordinary
transformations, and the like, which are dwelt
on in some books, and which promise to raise
the soul to a purely intellectual contemplation,
an altogether supernatural mental altitude, and
a life of pre-eminent excellence. But I would
have you see, my child, that these perfections
are not virtues, they are rather rewards which
God gives to virtues, or perhaps, more correctly
speaking, tokens of the joys of everlasting life,
occasionally granted to men in order to kindle
in them a desire for the fulness of joy which is
only to be found in Paradise. But we must not
aspire to such graces, which are in nowise
necessary to us in order to love and serve God,
our only lawful ambition. Indeed, for the most
part, these graces are not to be acquired by
labour or industry, and that because they are
rather passions than actions, which we may
receive, but cannot create. Moreover, our business only is to become good, devout people,
pious men and women; and all our efforts must
be to that end. If it should please God further
to endow us with angelic perfection, we should
then be prepared to become good angels; but
meanwhile let us practise, in all simplicity,
humility and devotion, those lowly virtues to the
attainment of which our Lord has bidden us
labour,--I mean patience, cheerfulness, self-mor
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tification, humility, obedience, poverty, chastity,
kindness to our neighbour, forbearance towards
his failings 1 diligence, and a holy fervour. Let
us willingly resign the higher eminences to lofty
souls. We are not worthy to take so high a
rank in God's service; let us be content to be
as scullions, porters, insignificant attendants in
His household, leaving it to Him if He should
hereafter see fit to call us to His own council
chamber. Of a truth, my child, the King of
Glory does not reward His servants according
to the dignity of their office, but according to
the humility and love with which they have
exercised it. While Saul was seeking his father's
asses, he found the kingdom of -Israel: 1 Rebecca
watering Abraham's camels, became his son's
wife: 2 Ruth gleaning after Boaz' reapers, and
lying down at his feet, was raised up to become
his bride. 3 Those who pretend to such great
and extraordinary graces are very liable to delusions and mistakes, so that sometimes it turns
out that people who aspire to be angels are not
ordinarily good men, and that their goodness
lies more in high-flown words than in heart and
deed. But we must beware of despising or presumptuously condemning anything. Only, while
thanking God for the pre-eminence of others,
let us abide contentedly in our own lower but
1 1 Sam. ix. 2 Gen. xxiv. 3 Ruth ii., iii.
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safer path,--a path of less distinction, but more
suitable to our lowliness, resting satisfied that if
we walk steadily and faithfully therein, God will
lift us up to greater things.
CHAPTER III.
On Patience.
"YE have need of patience, that, after ye
have done the Will of God, ye might
receive the promise," says Saint Paul; 1 and the
Saviour said, "-In your patience possess ye your
souls." 2 The greatest happiness of any one is
"to possess his soul;" and the more perfect our
patience, the more fully we do so possess our
souls. Call often to mind that our Saviour
redeemed us by bearing and suffering, and in
like manner we must seek our own salvation
amid sufferings and afflictions; bearing insults,
contradictions and troubles with all the gentleness
we can possibly command. Do not limit your
patience to this or that kind of trial, but extend
it universally to whatever God may send, or
allow to befall you. Some people will only
bear patiently with trials which carry their own
salve of dignity,--such as being wounded in
1 Heb. x. 36. 2 S. Luke xxi. 19.
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battle, becoming a prisoner of war, being ill-used
for the sake of their religion, being impoverished
by some strife out of which they came triumphant. Now these persons do not love tribulation,
but only the honour which attends it. A really
patient servant of God is as ready to bear inglorious troubles as those which are honourable.
A brave man can easily bear with contempt, slander and false accusation from an evil world; but
to bear such injustice at the hands of good men,
of friends and relations, is a great test of patience. I have a greater respect for the gentleness with which the great S. Charles Borromeo
long endured the public reproaches which a
celebrated preacher of a reformed Order used to
pour out upon him, than for all the other attacks
he bore with. For, just as the sting of a bee
hurts far more than that of a fly, so the injuries or
contradictions we endure from good people are
much harder to bear than any others. But it is
a thing which very often happens, and sometimes two worthy men, who are both highly wellintentioned after their own fashion, annoy and
even persecute one another grievously.
Be patient, not only with respect to the main
trials which beset you, but also under the accidental and accessory annoyances which arise out
of them. We often find people who imagine
themselves ready to accept a trial in itself who are
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impatient of its consequences. We hear one man
say, "I should not mind poverty, were it not that
I am unable to bring up my children and receive
my friends as handsomely as I desire." And
another says, "I should not mind, were it not
that the world will suppose it is my own fault;"
while another would patiently bear to be the
subject of slander provided nobody believed
it. Others, again, accept one side of a trouble
but fret against the rest--as, for instance, believing themselves to be patient under sickness,
only fretting against their inability to obtain
the best advice, or at the inconvenience they
are to their friends. But, dear child, be sure
that we must patiently accept, not sickness
only, but such sickness as God chooses to send,
in the place, among the people, and subject to
the circumstances which He ordains;--and so
with all other troubles. If any trouble comes
upon you, use the remedies with which God
supplies you. Not to do this is to tempt Him;
but having done so, wait whatever result He
wills with perfect resignation. If He pleases to
let the evil be remedied, thank Him humbly;
but if it be His will that the evil grow greater
than the remedies, patiently bless His Holy
Name.
Follow Saint Gregory's advice: When you
are justly blamed for some fault you have
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committed, humble yourself deeply, and confess
that you deserve the blame. If the accusation
be false, defend yourself quietly, denying the
fact; this is but due respect for truth and your
neighbour's edification. But if after you have
made your true and legitimate defence you are
still accused, do not be troubled, and do not
try to press your defence--you have had due
respect for truth, have the same now for
humility. By acting thus you will not infringe
either a due care for your good name, or the
affection you are bound to entertain for peace,
humility and gentleness of heart.
Complain as little as possible of your wrongs,
for as a general rule you may be sure that complaining is sin; 1 the rather that self-love always
magnifies our injuries: above all, do not complain to people who are easily angered and
excited. If it is needful to complain to some
one, either as seeking a remedy for your injury,
or in order to soothe your mind, let it be to
some calm, gentle spirit, greatly filled with the
Love of God; for otherwise, instead of relieving your heart, your confidants will only provoke
it to still greater disturbance; instead of taking
out the thorn which pricks you, they will drive
it further into your foot.
Some people when they are ill, or in trouble,
1 "Qui se plaint, peche."
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or injured by any one, restrain their complaints,
because they think (and that rightly) that to
murmur betokens great weakness or a narrow
mind; but nevertheless, they exceedingly desire
and maneuvre to make others pity them, desiring to be considered as suffering with patience
and courage. Now this is a kind of patience
certainly, but it is a spurious patience, which in
reality is neither more nor less than a very
refined, very subtle form of ambition and vanity.
To them we may apply the Apostle's words,
"He hath whereof to glory, but not before
God." 1 A really patient man neither complains
nor seeks to be pitied; he will speak simply
and truly of his trouble, without exaggerating
its weight or bemoaning himself; if others pity
him, he will accept their compassion patiently,
unless they pity him for some ill he is not
enduring, in which case he will say so with
meekness, and abide in patience and truthfulness, combating his grief and not complaining
of it.
As to the trials which you will encounter in
devotion (and they are certain to arise), bear in
mind our dear Lord's words: "A woman, when
she is in travail, hath sorrow, because her hour
is come; but as soon as she is delivered of the
child, she remembereth no more the anguish, for
1 Rom. iv. 2.
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joy that a child is born into the world."' You,
too, have conceived in your soul the most
gracious of children, even Jesus Christ, and
before He can be brought forth you must
inevitably travail with pain; but be of good
cheer, for when these pangs are over, you will
possess an abiding joy, having brought such a
man into the world. And He will be really
born for you, when He is perfected in your heart
by love, and in your actions by imitating His life.
When you are sick, offer all your pains and
weakness to our Dear Lord, and ask Him to
unite them to the sufferings which He bore for
you. Obey your physician, and take all medicines, remedies and nourishment, for the Love of
God, remembering the vinegar and gall He
tasted for love of us; desire your recovery that
you may serve Him; do not shrink from languor
and weakness out of obedience to Him, and be
ready to die if He wills it, to His Glory, and
that you may enter into His Presence.
Bear in mind that the bee while making its
honey lives upon a bitter food: and in like
manner we can never make acts of gentleness
and patience, or gather the honey of the truest
virtues, better than while eating the bread of
bitterness, and enduring hardness. And just as
the best honey is that made from thyme, a small
1 S. John xvi. 21.
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and bitter herb, so that virtue which is practised
amid bitterness and lowly sorrow is the best of
all virtues.
Gaze often inwardly upon Jesus Christ crucified, naked, blasphemed, falsely accused, forsaken, overwhelmed with every possible grief
and sorrow, and remember that none of your
sufferings can ever be compared to His, either
in kind or degree, and that you can never suffer
anything for Him worthy to be weighed against
what He has borne for you.
Consider the pains which martyrs have en--
dured, and think how even now many people
are bearing afflictions beyond all measure
greater than yours, and say, " Of a truth my
trouble is comfort, my torments are but roses as
compared to those whose life is a continual
death, without solace, or aid or consolation,
borne down with a weight of grief tenfold
greater than mine."
CHAPTER IV.
On Greater Humility.
ELISHA bade the poor widow " borrow
vessels, even empty vessels not a few,
and pour oil into all those vessels; " 1 and so in
Kings iv. 3. 4.
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order to receive God's Grace in our hearts, they
must be as empty vessels--not filled with selfesteem. The swallow with its sharp cry and
keen glance has the power of frightening away
birds of prey, and for that reason the dove
prefers it to all other birds, and lives surely
beside it;---even so humility drives Satan away,
and cherishes the gifts and graces of the Holy
Spirit within us, and for that reason all the
Saints--and especially the King of Saints and
His Blessed Mother--have always esteemed the
grace of humility above all other virtues.
We call that vainglory which men take to
themselves, either for what is not in them, or
which being in them is not their own, or which
being in them and their own yet is not worthy
of their self-satisfaction. For instance, noble
birth, favour of great men, popular applause,
all these are things nowise belonging to ourselves, but coming from our forefathers, or the
opinion of others. Some people are proud and
conceited because they ride a fine horse, wear a
feather in their hat, and are expensively dressed,
but who can fail to see their folly, or that if any
one has reason to be proud over such things, it
would be the horse, the bird, and the tailor !
Or what can be more contemptible than to
found one's credit on a horse, a plume, or a
ruff? Others again pride themselves upon their
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dainty moustaches, their well-trimmed beard or
curled hair, their white hands, or their dancing,
singing and the like: but is it not a petty vanity
which can seek to be esteemed for any such
trivial and frivolous matters? Then again, some
look for the world's respect and honour because
they have acquired some smatterings of science,
expecting all their neighbours to listen and
yield to them, and such men we call pedants.
Others make great capital of their personal
beauty, and imagine that every one is lost in
admiration of it; but all this is utterly vain,
foolish and impertinent, and the glory men take
to themselves for such matters must be called
vain, childish and frivolous.
You may test real worth as we test balm,
which is tried by being distilled in water, and if
it is precipitated to the bottom, it is known to
be pure and precious. So if you want to know
whether a man is really wise, learned, generous
or noble, see if his life is moulded by humility,
modesty and submission. If so, his gifts are
genuine; but if they are only surface and showy,
you may be sure that in proportion to their
demonstrativeness so is their unreality. Those
pearls which are formed amid tempest and
storm have only an outward shell, and are
hollow within; and so when a man's good
qualities are fed by pride, vanity and boasting,
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they will soon have nothing save empty show,
without sap, marrow or substance.
Honour, rank and dignity are like the saffron,
which never thrives so well as when trodden
tinder foot. Beauty only attracts when it is free
from any such aim. Self-conscious beauty loses
its charm, and learning becomes a discredit
and degenerates into pedantry, when we are
puffed up by it.
Those who are punctilious about rank, title
or precedence, both lay themselves open to
criticism and degradation, and also throw
contempt on all such things; because an
honour which is valuable when freely paid, is
worthless when sought for or exacted. When
the peacock opens his showy tail, he exhibits
the ugliness of his body beneath; and many
flowers which are beautiful while growing,
wither directly we gather them. And just as
men who inhale mandragora from afar as they
pass, find it sweet, while those who breathe it
closely are made faint and ill by the same, so
honour may be pleasant to those who merely
taste it as they pass, without seeking or craving
for it, but it will become very dangerous and
hurtful to such as take delight in and feed
upon it.
An active effort to acquire virtue is the first
step towards goodness; but an active effort to
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acquire honour is the first step towards contempt and shame. A well-conditioned mind
will not throw away its powers upon such sorry
trifles as rank, position or outward forms--it has
other things to do, and will leave all that to
meaner minds. He who can find pearls will
not stop to pick up shells; and so a man who
aims at real goodness will not be keen about
outward tokens of honour. Undoubtedly every
one is justified in keeping his own place, and
there is no want of humility in that so long as
it is done simply and without contention. Just
as our merchant-ships coming from Peru with
gold and silver often bring apes and parrots
likewise, because these cost but little and do not
add to the weight of a cargo, so good men
seeking to grow in grace can take their natural
rank and position, so long as they are not engrossed by such things, and do not involve
themselves in anxiety, contention or ill-will on
their account. I am not speaking here of those
whose position is public, or even of certain
special private persons whose dignity may be
important. In all such cases each man must
move in his own sphere, with prudence and
discretion, together with charity and courtesy.
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CHAPTER V.
On Interior Humility.
TO you however, my daughter, I would teach
a deeper humility, for that of which I
have been speaking is almost more truly to be
called worldly wisdom than humility. There
are some persons who dare not or will not think
about the graces with which God has endowed
them, fearing lest they should become selfcomplacent and vain-glorious; but they are
quite wrong. For if, as the Angelic Doctor
says, the real way of attaining to the Love of
God is by a careful consideration of all His
benefits given to us, then the better we realise
these the more we shall love Him; and inasmuch as individual gifts are more acceptable than
general gifts, so they ought to be more specially
dwelt upon. Of a truth, nothing so tends to
humble us before the Mercy of God as the
multitude of His gifts to us; just as nothing so
tends to humble us before His Justice as the
multitude of our misdeeds. Let us consider
what He has done for us, and what we have
done contrary to His Will, and as we review our
sins in detail, so let us review His Grace in the
same. There is no fear that a perception of
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what He has given you will puff you up, so long
as you keep steadily in mind that whatever is
good in you is not of yourself. Do mules cease
to be clumsy, stinking beasts because they are
used to carry the dainty treasures and perfumes
of a prince ? " What hast thou that thou didst
not receive? Now, if thou didst receive it,
why dost thou glory as if thou hadst not received
it ?" 1 On the contrary, a lively appreciation of
the grace given to you should make you humble,
for appreciation begets gratitude. But if, when
realising the gifts God has given you, any vanity
should beset you, the infallible remedy is to
turn to the thought of all our ingratitude, imperfection, and weakness. Any one who will
calmly consider what he has done without God,
cannot fail to realise that what he does with
God is no merit of his own; and so we may
rejoice in that which is good in us, and take
pleasure in the fact, but we shall give all the
glory to God Alone, Who Alone is its Author.
It was in this spirit that the Blessed Virgin
confessed that God had done " great things" to
her; 2 only that she might humble herself and
exalt Him. " My soul doth magnify the Lord,"
she said, by reason of the gifts He had given her.
We are very apt to speak of ourselves as
nought, as weakness itself, as the offscouring of
1 I Cor. iv. 7. 2 S. Luke i. 46-49.
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the earth; but we should be very much vexed
to be taken at our word and generally considered
what we call ourselves. On the contrary, we
often make-believe to run away and hide ourselves, merely to be followed and sought out;
we pretend to take the lowest place, with the
full intention of being honourably called to
come up higher. But true humility does not
affect to be humble, and is not given to make
a display in lowly words. It seeks not only to
conceal other virtues, but above all it seeks and
desires to conceal itself; and if it were lawful
to tell lies, or feign or give scandal, humility
would perhaps sometimes affect a cloak of pride
in order to hide itself utterly. Take my advice,
my daughter, and either use no professions of
humility, or else use them with a real mind
corresponding to your outward expressions;
never cast down your eyes without humbling your
heart; and do not pretend to wish to be last and
least, unless you really and sincerely mean it. I
would make this so general a rule as to have no
exception; only courtesy sometimes requires us
to put forward those who obviously would not
put themselves forward, but this is not deceitful
or mock humility; and so with respect to certain
expressions of regard which do not seem strictly
true, but which are not dishonest, because the
speaker really intends to give honour and respect
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to him to whom they are addressed; and even
though the actual words may be somewhat
excessive, there is no harm in them if they are
the ordinary forms of society, though truly I
wish that all our expressions were as nearly
as possible regulated by real heart feeling in
all truthfulness and simplicity. A really humble
man would rather that some one else called him
worthless and good-for-nothing, than say so of
himself; at all events, if such things are said, he
does not contradict them, but acquiesces contentedly, for it is his own opinion. We meet
people who tell us that they leave mental prayer
to those who are more perfect, not feeling themselves worthy of it; that they dare not communicate frequently, because they do not feel
fit to do so; that they fear to bring discredit on
religion if they profess it, through their weakness and frailty; while others decline to use
their talents in the service of God and their
neighbour, because, forsooth, they know their
weakness, and are afraid of becoming proud if
they do any good thing,--lest while helping others
they might destroy themselves. But all this is
unreal, and not merely a spurious but a vicious
humility, which tacitly and secretly condemns
God's gifts, and makes a pretext of lowliness
while really exalting self-love, self-sufficiency,
indolence, and evil tempers.
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" Ask thee a sign of the Lord thy God; ask
it either in the depth or in the height above." 1
So spake the prophet to King Ahaz; but he
answered, " I will not ask, neither will I tempt
the Lord." Unhappy man! he affects to show
exceeding reverence to God, and under a pretence of humility refuses to seek the grace
offered by the Divine Goodness. Could he not
see that when God wills to grant us a favour, it
is mere pride to reject it, that God's gifts must
needs be accepted, and that true humility lies in
obedience and the most literal compliance with
His Will ! Well then, God's Will is that we
should be perfect, uniting ourselves to Him,
and imitating Him to the utmost of our powers.
The proud man who trusts in himself may well
undertake nothing, but the humble man is all
the braver that he knows his own helplessness,
and his courage waxes in proportion to his low
opinion of himself, because all his trust is in
God, Who delights to show forth His Power in
our weakness, His Mercy in our misery. The
safest course is humbly and piously to venture
upon whatever may be considered profitable
for us by those who undertake our spiritual
guidance.
Nothing can be more foolish than to fancy we
know that of which we are really ignorant; to
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affect knowledge while conscious that we are
ignorant is intolerable vanity. For my part, I
would rather not put forward that which I really
do know, while on the other hand neither would
I affect ignorance. When Charity requires it,
you should readily and kindly impart to your
neighbour not only that which is necessary for
his instruction, but also what is profitable for
his consolation. The same humility which conceals graces with a view to their preservation is
ready to bring them forth at the bidding of
Charity, with a view to their increase and perfection; therein reminding me of that tree in
the Isles of Tylos, 1 which closes its beautiful
carnation blossoms at night, only opening them
to the rising sun, so that the natives say they go
to sleep. Just so humility hides our earthly
virtues and perfections, only expanding them
at the call of Charity, which is not an earthly,
but a heavenly, not a mere moral, but a divine
virtue; the true sun of all virtues, which should
all be ruled by it, so that any humility which
controverts charity is unquestionably false.
I would not affect either folly or wisdom; for
just as humility deters me from pretending to be
wise, so simplicity and straightforwardness deter
me from pretending to be foolish; and just as
vanity is opposed to humility, so all affectation
1 Islands in the Persian Gulf.
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and pretence are opposed to honesty and simplicity. If certain eminent servants of God have
feigned folly in order to be despised by the
world, we may marvel, but not imitate them; for
they had special and extraordinary reasons for
doing extraordinary things, and cannot be used
as a rule for such as we are. When David 1
danced more than was customary before the
Ark of the Covenant, it was not with the intention of affecting folly, but simply as expressing
the unbounded and extraordinary gladness of his
heart. Michal his wife reproached him with
his actions as folly, but he did not mind being
" vile and base in his own sight," but declared
himself willing to be despised for God's Sake.
And so, if you should be despised for acts of
genuine devotion, humility will enable you to
rejoice in so blessed a contempt, the cause of
which does not lie with you.
CHAPTER VI.
Humility makes us rejoice in our own Abjection.
daughter, I am going a step further,
BUT, my
and I bid you everywhere and in everything to rejoice in your own abjection. Perhaps
you will ask in reply what I mean by that. In
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Latin abjection means humility, and humility
means abjection, so that when Our Lady says in
the Magnificat that all generations shall call
her blessed, because God hath regarded the
low estate of His handmaiden, 1 she means that
He has accepted her abjection and lowliness
in order to fill her with graces and favours.
Nevertheless, there is a difference between
humility and abjection; for abjection is the
poverty, vileness and littleness which exist in
us, without our taking heed to them; but humility
implies a real knowledge and voluntary recognition of that abjection. And the highest point
of humility consists in not merely acknowledging one's abjection, but in taking pleasure
therein, not from any want of breadth or courage,
hut to give the more glory to God's Divine
Majesty, and to esteem one's neighbour more
highly than one's self. This is what I would have
you do; and to explain myself more clearly,
let me tell you that the trials which afflict us are
sometimes abject, sometimes honourable. NOW
many people will accept the latter, but very few
are willing to accept the former. Everybody
respects and pities a pious hermit shivering in
his worn-out garb; but let a poor gentleman
or lady be in like case, and they are despised
for it, -- and so their poverty is abject. A
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religious receives a sharp rebuke from his superior meekly, or a child from his parent, and every
one will call it obedience, mortification, wisdom; but let a knight or a lady accept the
like from some one, albeit for the Love of
God, and they will forthwith be accused of
cowardice. This again is abject suffering. One
person has a cancer in the arm, another in the
face; the former only has the pain to bear, but
the latter has also to endure all the disgust
and repulsion caused by his disease; and this
is abjection. And what I want to teach you
is, that we should not merely rejoice in our
trouble, which we do by means of patience, but
we should also cherish the abjection, which is
done by means of humility. Again, there are
abject and honourable virtues; for the world
generally despises patience, gentleness, simplicity, and even humility itself, while, on the
contrary, it highly esteems prudence, valour, and
liberality. Sometimes even there may be a like
distinction drawn between acts of one and the
same virtue--one being despised and the other
respected. Thus almsgiving and forgiveness of
injuries are both acts of charity, but while every
one esteems the first, the world looks down
upon the last. A young man or a girl who
refuses to join in the excesses of dress, amusement, or gossip of their circle, is laughed at
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and criticised, and their self-restraint is called
affectation or bigotry. Well, to rejoice in that
is to rejoice in abjection. Or, to take another
shape of the same thing. We are employed in
visiting the sick --if I am sent to the most
wretched cases, it is an abjection in the world's
sight, and consequently I like it. If I am sent
to those of a better class, it is an interior
abjection, for there is less grace and merit in the
work, and so I can accept that abjection. If
one has a fall in the street, there is the ridiculous part of it to be borne, as well as the possible pain; and this is an abjection we must
accept. There are even some faults, in which
there is no harm beyond their abjection, and
although humility does not require us to commit them intentionally, it does require of us
not to be disturbed at having committed them.
I mean certain foolish acts, incivilities, and
inadvertencies, which we ought to avoid as far
as may be out of civility and decorum, but of
which, if accidentally committed, we ought to
accept the abjection heartily, out of humility.
To go further still,--if in anger or excitement I
have been led to use unseemly words, offending
God and my neighbour thereby, I will repent
heartily, and be very grieved for the offence,
which I must try to repair to the utmost; but
meanwhile I will accept the abjection and dis
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grace which will ensue, and were it possible to
separate the two things, I ought earnestly to reject
the sin, while I retained the abjection readily.
But while we rejoice in the abjection, we must
nevertheless use all due and lawful means to
remedy the evil whence it springs, especially when
that evil is serious. Thus, if I have an abject
disease in my face, I should endeavour to get
it cured, although I do not wish to obliterate the
abjection it has caused me. If I have done something awkward which hurts no one, I will not
make excuses, because, although it was a failing,
my own abjection is the only result; but if I have
given offence or scandal through my carelessness
or folly, I am bound to try and remedy it by a
sincere apology. There are occasions when
charity requires us not to acquiesce in abjection,
but in such a case one ought the more to take
it inwardly to heart for one's private edification.
Perhaps you will ask what are the most profitable forms of abjection. Unquestionably, those
most helpful to our own souls, and most acceptable to God, are such as come accidentally, or
in the natural course of events, because we have
not chosen them ourselves, but simply accepted
God's choice, which is always to be preferred to
ours. But if we are constrained to choose, the
greatest abjections are best; and the greatest
is whatever is most contrary to one's individual
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inclination, so long as it is in conformity with
one s vocation; for of a truth our self-will and
self-pleasing mars many graces. Who can teach
any of us truly to say with David, " I had rather
be a doorkeeper in the house of my God, than
to dwell in the tents of ungodliness "? 1 None,
dear child, save He Who lived and died the
scorn of men, and the outcast of the people, in
order that we might be raised up. I have said
things here which must seem very hard to contemplate, but, believe me, they will become sweet
as honey when you try to put them in practice.
CHAPTER VII.
How to combine due care for a Good Reputation
with Humility.
PRAISE, honour, and glory are not bestowed on men for ordinary, but for extraordinary virtue. By praise we intend to lead
men to appreciate the excellence of certain
individuals; giving them honour is the expression of our own esteem for them; and I should
say that glory is the combination of praise and
honour from many persons. If praise and honour
are like precious stones, glory is as an enamel
thereof. Now, as humility forbids us to aim at
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excelling or being preferred to others, it likewise
forbids us to aim at praise, honour, and glory;
but it allows us to give heed, as the Wise Man
says, to our good name, and that because a good
name does not imply any one particular excellence, but a general straightforward integrity of
purpose, which we may recognise in ourselves,
and desire to be known as possessing, without
any breach of humility. Humility might make
us indifferent even to a good reputation, were it
not for charity's sake; but seeing that it is a
groundwork of society, and without it we are
not merely useless but positively harmful to the
world, because of the scandal given by such a
deficiency, therefore charity requires, and humility allows, us to desire and to maintain a
good reputation with care.
Moreover, just as the leaves of a tree are
valuable, not merely for beauty's sake, but also
as a shelter to the tender fruit, so a good reputation, if not in itself very important, is still very
useful, not only as an embellishment of life, but
as a protection to our virtues, especially to those
which are weakly. The necessity for acting tip
to our reputation, and being what we are thought
to be, brings a strong though kindly motive
power to bear upon a generous disposition.
Let us foster all our virtues, my daughter, because they are pleasing to God, the Chief Aim
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of all we do. But just as when men preserve
fruits, they do not only conserve them, but put
them into suitable vessels, so while Divine Love
is the main thing which keeps us in the ways of
holiness, we may also find help from the effects
of a good reputation. But it will not do to be
over-eager or fanciful about it. Those who are
so very sensitive about their reputation are like
people who are perpetually physicking themselves for every carnal ailment; they mean to
preserve their health, but practically they destroy
it; and those who are so very fastidious over
their good name are apt to lose it entirely, for
they become fanciful, fretful, and disagreeab1e,
provoking ill-natured remarks.
As a rule, indifference to insult and slander is
a much more effectual remedy than resentment,
wrath, and vengeance. Slander melts away
beneath contempt, but indignation seems a sort
of acknowledgment of its truth. Crocodiles
never meddle with any but those who are afraid
of them, and slander only persists in attacking
people who are disturbed by it.
An excessive fear of losing reputation indicates
mistrust as to its foundations, which are to be
found in a good and true life. Those towns
where the bridges are built of wood are very
uneasy whenever a sign of flood appears, but
they who possess stone bridges are not anxious
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unless some very unusual storm appears. And
so a soul built up on solid Christian foundations
can afford to despise the outpour of slanderous
tongues, but those who know themselves to be
weak are for ever disturbed and uneasy. Be
sure, my daughter, that he who seeks to be well
thought of by everybody will be esteemed by
nobody, and those people deserve to be despised
who are anxious to be highly esteemed by ungodly, unworthy men.
Reputation, after all, is but a signboard giving
notice where virtue dwells, and virtue itself is
always and everywhere preferable. Therefore,
if it is said that you are a hypocrite because you
are professedly devout, or if you are called a
coward because you have forgiven an insult,
despise all such accusations. Such judgments
are the utterances of foolish men, and you must
not give up what is right, even though your
reputation suffer, for fruit is better than foliage,
that is to say, an inward and spiritual gain is
worth all external gains. We may take a jealous
care of our reputation, but not idolise it; and
while we desire not to displease good men,
neither should we seek to please those that are
evil. A man's natural adornment is his beard,
and a woman's her hair; if either be torn out
they may never grow again, but if only shaven
or shorn, they will grow all the thicker; and in
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like manner, if our reptitation be shorn or even
shaven by slanderous tongues (of which David
says, that "with lies they cut like a sharp
razor "1), there is no need to be disturbed, it will
soon spring again, if not brighter, at all events
more substantial. But if it be lost through our
own vices or meanness or evil living, it will not
be easily restored, because its roots are plucked
up. And the root of a good name is to be found
in virtue and honesty, which will always cause it
to spring up afresh, however it may be assaulted.
If your good name suffers from some empty
pursuit, some useless habit, some unworthy
friendship, they must be renounced, for a good
name is worth more than any such idle indulgence; but if you are blamed or slandered for
pious practices, earnestness in devotion, or
whatever tends to win eternal life, then let your
slanderers have their way, like dogs that bay at
the moon ! Be sure that, if they should succeed in
rousing any evil impression against you (clipping
the beard of your reputation, as it were), your
good name will soon revive, and the razor of
slander will strengthen your honour, just as the
pruning-knife strengthens the vine and causes it
to bring forth more abundant fruit. Let us keep
Jesus Christ Crucified always before our eyes;
let us go on trustfully and simply, but with
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discretion and wisdom, in His Service, and He
will take care of our reputation; if He permits
us to lose it, it will only be to give us better
things, and to train us in a holy humility, one
ounce of which is worth more than a thousand
pounds of honour. If we are unjustly blamed,
let us quietly meet calumny with truth; if
calumny perseveres, let us persevere in humility;
there is no surer shelter for our reputation or
our soul than the Hand of God. Let us serve
Him in good report or evil report alike, with S.
Paul; 1 so that we may cry out with David,
"For Thy Sake have I suffered reproof, shame
hath covered my face." 2
Of course certain crimes, so grievous that no
one who can justify himself should remain
silent, must be excepted; as, too, certain persons whose reputation closely affects the edification of others. In this case all theologians
say that it is right quietly to seek reparation.
CHAPTER VIII.
Gentleness towards others and Remedies against
Anger.
THE holy Chrism, used by the Church
according to apostolic tradition, is made
1 2 Cor. vi. 8. 2 Ps. lxix. 7.
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of olive oil mingled with balm, which, among
other things, are emblematic of two virtues very
specially conspicuous in our Dear Lord Himself,
and which He has specially commended to us,
as though they, above all things, drew us to
Him and taught us to imitate Him: "Take My
yoke upon you, and learn of Me, for I am meek
and lowly in heart." 1 Humility makes our
lives acceptable to God, meekness makes us
acceptable to men. Balm, as I said before,
sinking to the bottom of all liquids, is a figure
of humility; and oil, floating as it does to the
top, is a figure of gentleness and cheerfulness,
rising above all things, and excelling all things,
the very flower of Love, which, so says S.
Bernard, comes to perfection when it is not
merely patient, but gentle and cheerful. Give
heed, then, daughter, that you keep this mystic
chrism of gentleness and htimility in your heart,
for it is a favourite device of the Enemy to make
people content with a fair outside semblance
of these graces, not examining their inner hearts,
and so fancying themselves to be gentle and
humble while they are far otherwise. And this
is easily perceived, because, in spite of their
ostentatious gentleness and humility, they are
stirred up with pride and anger by the smallest
wrong or contradiction. There is a popular
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belief that those who take the antidote commonly
called "Saint Paul's gift," 1 do not suffer from
the viper's bite, provided, that is, that the remedy
be pure; and even so true gentleness and humility will avert the burning and swelling which
contradiction is apt to excite in our hearts. If,
when stung by slander or ill-nature, we wax
proud and swell with anger, it is a proof that
our gentleness and humility are unreal, and
mere artificial show. When the Patriarch Joseph
sent his brethren back from Egypt to his father's
house, he only gave them one counsel, "See
that ye fall not out by the way."' And so, my
child, say I to you. This miserable life is but
the road to a blessed life; do not let us fall out
by the way one with another; let us go on with
the company of our brethren gently, peacefully,
and kindly. Most emphatically I say it, If possible, fall out with no one, and on no pretext whatever suffer your heart to admit anger and passion.
S. James says, plainly and unreservedly, that "the
wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of
God." 3 Of course it is a duty to resist evil and
to repress the faults of those for whom we are
1 "La grace de Saint Paul," in one old edition: in another, "la
graisse de Saint Paull;" the latter probably is the true
reading, as
there was a quack salve formerly in use for the bites of snakes,
partly
compounded of adders' fat. The name is obviously derived from
S. Paul's adventure with the viper in the Island of Melita. (Acts
xxviii.)
2 Gen. xlv. 24. 3 S. James i. 20.
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responsible, steadily and firmly, but gently and
quietly. Nothing so stills the elephant when
enraged as the sight of a lamb; nor does anything break the force of a cannon ball so well
as wool. Correction given in anger, however tempered by reason, never has so much effect as that
which is given altogether without anger; for the
reasonable soul being naturally subject to reason,
it is a mere tyranny which subjects it to passion,
and whereinsoever reason is led by passion it
becomes odious, and its just rule obnoxious.
When a monarch visits a country peaceably the
people are gratified and flattered; but if the
king has to take his armies through the land,
even on behalf of the public welfare, his visit is
sure to be unwelcome and harmful, because,
however strictly military discipline may be enforced, there will always be some mischief done
to the people. Just so when reason prevails,
and administers reproof, correction, and punishment in a calm spirit, although it be strict,
every one approves and is content; but if reason
be hindered by anger and vexation (which Saint
Augustine calls her soldiers) there will be more
fear than love, and reason itself will be despised
and resisted. The same Saint Augustine,
writing to Profuturus, says that it is better to
refuse entrance to any even the least semblance
of anger, however just; and that because once
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entered in, it is hard to be got rid of, and what
was but a little mote soon waxes into a great
beam. For if anger tarries till night, and the
sun goes down upon our wrath (a thing expressly
forbidden by the Apostle1), there is no longer any
way of getting rid of it; it feeds upon endless
false fancies; for no angry man ever yet but
thought his anger just.
Depend upon it, it is better to learn how to
live without being angry than to imagine one
can moderate and control anger lawfully; and
if through weakness and frailty one is overtaken
by it, it is far better to put it away forcibly than
to parley with it; for give anger ever so little
way, and it will become master, like the serpent,
who easily works in its body wherever it can
once introduce its head. You will ask how to
put away anger. My child, when you feel its
first movements, collect yourself gently and
seriously, not hastily or with impetuosity. Sometimes in a law court the officials who enforce
quiet make more noise than those they affect to
hush; and so, if you are impetuous in restraining your temper, you will throw your heart
into worse confusion than before, and, amid
the excitement, it will lose all self-control.
Having thus gently exerted yourself, follow
the advice which the aged S. Augustine gave to
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a younger Bishop, Auxilius. " Do," said he,
"what a man should do." If you are like the
Psalmist, ready to cry out, "Mine eye is consumed for very anger," 1 go on to say, "Have
mercy upon me, O Lord;" so that God may
stretch forth His Right Hand and control your
wrath. I mean, that when we feel stirred with
anger, we ought to call upon God for help, like
the Apostles, when they were tossed about with
wind and storm, and He is sure to say, " Peace,
be still." But even here I would again warn
you, that your very prayers against the angry
feelings which urge you should be gentle, calm,
and without vehemence. Remember this rule
in whatever remedies against anger you may
seek. Further, directly you are conscious of an
angry act, atone for the fault by some speedy
act of meekness towards the person who excited
your anger. It is a sovereign cure for untruthfulness to unsay what you have falsely said at
once on detecting yourself in falsehood; and so,
too, it is a good remedy for anger to make
immediate amends by some opposite act of
meekness. There is an old saying, that fresh
wounds are soonest closed.
Moreover, when there is nothing to stir your
1 In the English version it is, "Mine eye is consumed for very
heaviness" (Ps. xxxi. 10), but in the Vulgate we find, "
Conturbatus
est in ira oculus meus." (Vulg. Ps. xxx. 10.)
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wrath, lay up a store of meekness and kindliness,
speaking and acting in things great and small as
gently as possible. Remember that the Bride
of the Canticles is described as not merely
dropping honey, and milk also, from her lips,
but as having it "under her tongue;"' that
is to say, in her heart. So we must not only
speak gently to our neighbour, hut we must be
filled, heart and soul, with gentleness; and we
must not merely seek the sweetness of aromatic
honey in courtesy and suavity with strangers,
but also the sweetness of milk among those of
our own household and our neighbours; a sweetness terribly lacking to some who are as angels
abroad and devils at home !
CHAPTER IX.
On Gentleness towards Ourselves.
ONE important direction in which to
exercise gentleness, is with respect to
ourselves, never growing irritated with one's self
or one s imperfections; for although it is but
reasonable that we should be displeased and
grieved at our own faults, yet ought we to guard
against a bitter, angry, or peevish feeling about
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them. Many people fall into the error of being
angry because they have been angry, vexed
because they have given way to vexation, thus
keeping up a chronic state of irritation, which
adds to the evil of what is past, and prepares
the way for a fresh fall on the first occasion.
Moreover, all this anger and irritation against
one's self fosters pride, and springs entirely from
self-love, which is disturbed and fretted by its
own imperfection. What we want is a quiet,
steady, firm displeasure at our own faults. A
judge gives sentence more effectually speaking
deliberately and calmly than if he be impetuous
and passionate (for in the latter case he punishes
not so much the actual faults before him, but
what they appear to him to be); and so we
can chasten ourselves far better by a quiet
stedfast repentance, than by eager hasty ways of
penitence, which, in fact, are proportioned not
by the weight of our faults, but according to
our feelings and inclinations. Thus one man
who specially aims at purity will be intensely
vexed with himself at some very trifling fault
against it, while he looks upon some gross
slander of which he has been guilty as a mere
laughing matter. On the other hand, another
will torment himself painfully over some slight
exaggeration, while he altogether overlooks some
serious offence against purity; and so on with
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other things. All this arises solely because men
do not judge themselves by the light of reason,
but under the influence of passion.
Believe me, my daughter, as a parent's tender
affectionate remonstrance has far more weight
with his child than anger and sternness, so,
when we judge our own heart guilty, if we treat
it gently, rather in a spirit of pity than anger,
encouraging it to amendment, its repentance
will be much deeper and more lasting than if
stirred up in vehemence and wrath.
For instance:--Let me suppose that I am
specially seeking to conquer vanity, and yet that I
have fallen conspicuously into that sin;--instead
of taking myself to task as abominable and
wretched, for breaking so many resolutions, calling myself unfit to lift up my eyes to Heaven,
as disloyal, faithless, and the like, I would deal
pitifully and quietly with myself. " Poor heart !
so soon fallen again into the snare ! Well now,
rise up again bravely and fall no more. Seek
God's Mercy, hope in Him, ask Him to keel)
you from falling again, and begin to tread the
pathway of humility afresh. We must be more
on our guard henceforth." Such a course will
be the surest way to making a stedfast substantial resolution against the special fault, to
which should be added any external means
suitable, and the advice of one's director.
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If any one does not find this gentle dealing
sufficient, let him use sterner self-rebuke and
admonition, provided only, that whatever indignation he may rouse against himself, he finally
works it all up to a tender loving trust in God,
treading in the footsteps of that great penitent
who cried out to his troubled soul:- " Why art
thou so vexed, O my soul, and why art thou so
disquieted within me? O put thy trust in God,
for I will yet thank Him, Which is the help of
my countenance, and my God." 1
So then, when you have fallen, lift up your
heart in quietness, humbling yourself deeply
before God by reason of your frailty, without
marvelling that you fell;--there is no cause to
marvel because weakness is weak, or infirmity
infirm. Heartily lament that you should have
offended God, and begin anew to cultivate the
lacking grace, with a very deep trust in His
Mercy, and with a bold, brave heart.
1 Ps. xlii. 14, 15.
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CHAPTER X.
We must attend to the Business of Life carefully,
but without Eagerness or Over-anxiety.
THE care and diligence due to our ordinary
siness are very different from solicitude,
anxiety and restlessness. The Angels care for
our salvation and seek it diligently, but they are
wholly free from anxiety and solicitude, for,
whereas care and diligence naturally appertain
to their love, anxiety would be wholly inconsistent with their happiness; for although care and
diligence can go hand in hand with calmness
and peace, those angelic properties could not
unite with solicitude or anxiety, much less with
over-eagerness.
Therefore, my daughter, be careful and diligent in all your affairs; God, Who commits them
to you, wills you to give them your best attention; but strive not to be anxious and solicitous,
that is to say, do not set about your work with
restlessness and excitement, and do not give way
to bustle and eagerness in what you do;--every
form of excitement affects both judgment and
reason, and hinders a right performance of the
very thing which excites us.
Our Lord, rebuking Martha, said, " Thou art
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careful and troubled about many things." 1 If she
had been simply careful, she would not have
been troubled, but giving way to disquiet and
anxiety, she grew eager and troubled, and for
that our Lord reproved her. The rivers which
flow gently through our plains bear barges of
rich merchandise, and the gracious rains which
fall softly on the land fertilise it to bear the
fruits of the earth;--but when the rivers swell
into torrents, they hinder commerce and devastate the country, and violent storms and tempests
do the like. No work done with impetuosity
and excitement was ever well done, and the old
proverb, " Make haste slowly," is a good one, 2
Solomon says, " There is one that laboureth and
taketh pains, and maketh haste, and is so much
the more behind;" 3 we are always soon enough
when we do well. The humble bee makes far
more noise and is more bustling than the honey
bee, but it makes nought save wax--no honey;
just so those who are restless and eager, or full
of noisy solicitude, never do much or well.
Flies harass us less by what they do than by
reason of their multitude, and so great matters
give us less disturbance than a multitude of
small affairs. Accept the duties which come
1 S. Luke x. 41.
2 " Festina lente. " " Il faut depescher tout bellement."
3 Eccles. xi. 11.
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upon you quietly, and try to fulfil them methodically, one after another. If you attempt to do
everything at once, or with confusion, you will
only cumber yourself with your own exertions,
and by dint of perplexing your mind you will
probably be overwhelmed and accomplish nothing.
In all your affairs lean solely on God's Providence, by means of which alone your plans can
succeed. Meanwhile, on your part work on in
quiet co-operation with Him, and then rest
satisfied that if you have trusted entirely to Him
you will always obtain such a measure of success
as is most profitable for you, whether it seems so
or not to your own individual judgmnent.
Imitate a little child, whom one sees holding
tight with one hand to its father, while with the
other it gathers strawberries or blackberries
from the wayside hedge. Even so, while you
gather and use this world's goods with one hand,
always let the other be fast in your Heavenly
Father's Hand, and look round from time to
time to make sure that He is satisfied with what
you are doing, at home or abroad. Beware of
letting go, under the idea of making or receiving
more--if He forsakes you, you will fall to the
ground at the first step. When your ordinary
work or business is not specially engrossing, let
your heart be fixed more on God than on it;
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and if the work be such as to require your undivided attention, then pause from time to time
and look to God, even as navigators who make
for the haven they would attain, by looking up
at the heavens rather than down upon the deeps
on which they sail. So doing, God will work
with you, in you, and for you, and your work
will be blessed.
CHAPTER XI.
On Obedience.
LOVE alone leads to perfection, but the
three chief means for acquiring it are
obedience, chastity, and poverty. Obedience
is a consecration of the heart, chastity of the
body, and poverty of all worldly goods to the
Love and Service of God. These are the three
members of the Spiritual Cross, and all three
must be raised upon the fourth, which is
humility. I am not going here to speak of these
three virtues as solemn vows, which only concern
religious, nor even as ordinary vows, although
when sought under the shelter of a vow all
virtues receive an enhanced grace and merit;
but it is not necessary for perfection that they
should be undertaken as vows, so long as they
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are practised diligently. The three vows
solemnly taken put a man into the state of perfection, whereas a diligent observance thereof
brings him to perfection. For, observe, there
is a great difference between the state of perfection and perfection itself, inasmuch as all
prelates and religious are in the former,
although unfortunately it is too obvious that by
no means all attain to the latter. Let us then
endeavour to practise these three virtues, according to our several vocations, for although
we are not thereby called to a state of perfection, we may attain through them to perfection
itself, and of a truth we are all bound to practise
them, although not all after the same manner.
There are two kinds of obedience, one
necessary, the other voluntary. The first includes a humble obedience to your ecclesiastical
superiors, whether Pope, Bishop, Curate, or
those commissioned by them. You are likewise bound to obey your civil superiors, king
and magistrates; as also your domestic superiors,
father, mother, master or mistress. Such obedience is called necessary, because no one can
free himself from the duty of obeying these
superiors, God having appointed them severally
to bear rule over us. Therefore do you obey
their commands as of right, but if you would
be perfect, follow their counsels, and even
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their wishes as far as charity and prudence will
allow: obey as to things acceptable; as when
they bid you eat, or take recreation, for although
there may be no great virtue in obedience in
such a case, there is great harm in disobedience.
Obey in things indifferent, as concerning questions of dress, coming and going, singing or
keeping silence, for herein is a very laudable
obedience. Obey in things hard, disagreeable
and inconvenient, and therein lies a very perfect
obedience. Moreover, obey quietly, without
answering again, promptly, without delay, cheerfully, without reluctance; and, above all, render
a loving obedience for His Sake Who became
obedient even to the death of the Cross for our
sake; Who, as Saint Bernard says, chose rather
to resign His Life than His Obedience.
If you would acquire a ready obedience to
superiors, accustom yourself to yield to your
equals, giving way to their opinions where
nothing wrong is involved, without arguing or
peevishness; and adapt yourself easily to the
wishes of your inferiors as far as you reasonably
can, and forbear the exercise of stern authority
so long as they do well.
It is a mistake for those who find it hard to
pay a willing obedience to their natural superiors
to suppose that if they were professed religious
they would find it easy to obey.
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Voluntary obedience is such as we undertake
by our own choice, and which is not imposed
by others. Persons do not choose their own
King or Bishop, or parents--often not even
their husband; but most people choose their
confessor or director. And whether a person
takes a vow of obedience to him (as Saint
Theresa, beyond her formal vow to the Superior
of her Order, bound herself by a simple vow
to obey Father Gratian), or without any vow
they resolve to obey their chosen spiritual
guide, all such obedience is voluntary, because
it depends upon our own will.
Obedience to lawful superiors is regulated by
their official claims. Thus, in all public and
legal matters, we are bound to obey our King;
in ecclesiastical matters, our Bishop; in domestic matters, our father, master or husband; and
in personal matters which concern the soul,
our confessor or spiritual guide.
Seek to be directed in your religious exercises
by your spiritual father, because thereby they
will have double grace and virtue;--that which
is inherent in that they are devout, and that
which comes by reason of the spirit of obedience in which they are performed. Blessed
indeed are the obedient, for God will never
permit them to go astray.
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CHAPTER XII.
On Purity.
PURITY is the lily among virtues--by it
men approach to the Angels. There is
no beauty without purity, and human purity is
chastity. We speak of the chaste as honest,
and of the loss of purity as dishonour; purity
is an intact thing, its converse is corruption.
In a word, its special glory is in the spotless
whiteness of soul and body.
No unlawful pleasures are compatible with
chastity; the pure heart is like the mother of
pearl which admits no drop of water save that
which comes from Heaven,--it is closed to every
attraction save such as are sanctified by holy
matrimony. Close your heart to every questionable tenderness or delight, guard against all that
is unprofitable though it may be lawful, and
strive to avoid unduly fixing your heart even on
that which in itself is right and good.
Every one has great need of this virtue: those
living in widowhood need a brave chastity not
only to forego present and future delights, but
to resist the memories of the past, with which a
happy married life naturally fills the imagination, softening and weakening the will. Saint
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Augustine lauds the purity of his beloved
Alipius, who had altogether forgotten and
despised the carnal pleasures in which his
youth was passed. While fruits are whole, you
may store them up securely, some in straw, some
in sand or amid their own foliage, but once
bruised there is no means of preserving them
save with sugar or honey. Even so the purity
which has never been tampered with may well
be preserved to the end, but when once that has
ceased to exist nothing can ensure its existence
but the genuine devotion, which, as I have often
said, is the very honey and sugar of the mind.
The unmarried need a very simple sensitive
purity, which will drive away all over-curious
thoughts, and teach them to despise all merely sensual satisfactions. The young are apt to imagine
that of which they are ignorant to be wondrous
sweet, and as the foolish moth hovers around a
light, and, persisting in coming too near, perishes
in its inquisitive folly, so they perish through
their unwise approach to forbidden pleasures.
And married people need a watchful purity
whereby to keep God ever before them, and to
seek all earthly happiness and delight through
Him Alone, ever remembering that He has
sanctified the state of holy matrimony by making it the type of His own union with the
Church.
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The Apostle says, "Follow peace with all
men, and holiness, without which no man shall
see the Lord:" 1 by which holiness he means
purity. Of a truth, my daughter, without purity
no one can ever see God; 2 nor can any hope to
dwell in His tabernacle except he lead an
uncorrupt life; 3 and our Blessed Lord Himself
has promised the special blessing of beholding
Him to those that are pure in heart.
CHAPTER XIII.
How to maintain Purity.
BE exceedingly quick in turning aside from
the slightest thing leading to impurity,
for it is an evil which approaches stealthily, and
in which the very smallest beginnings are apt to
grow rapidly. It is always easier to fly from
such evils than to cure them.
Human bodies are like glasses, which cannot
come into collision without risk of breaking; or
to fruits, which, however fresh and ripe, are
damaged by pressure. Never permit any one
to take any manner of foolish liberty with you,
since, although there may be no evil intention,
the perfectness of purity is injured thereby.
Purity has its source in the heart, but it is in
1 Heb. xii. 14. 2 S. Matt. v. 8. 3 Ps. xv. 2.
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the body that its material results take shape,
and therefore it may be forfeited both by the
exterior senses and by the thoughts and desires
of the heart. All lack of modesty in seeing,
hearing, speaking, smelling, or touching, is impurity, especially when the heart takes pleasure
therein. S. Paul says without any hesitation
that impurity and uncleanness, or foolish and
unseemly talking, are not to be "so much as
named" 1 among Christians. The bee not only
shuns all carrion, but abhors and flies far from
the faintest smell proceeding therefrom. The
Bride of the Canticles is represented with "hands
dropping with myrrh." 2 a preservative against
all corruption; her "lips are like a thread of
scarlet," the type of modest words; 3 her eyes
are "dove's eyes," 4 clear and soft; her "nose is
as the tower of Lebanon which looketh towards
," 5 an incorruptible wood; her ears are
hungs with earrings of pure gold; 6 and even so
the devout soul should be pure, honest and
transparent in hand, lip, eye, ear, and the whole
body.
Remember that there are things which blemish perfect purity, without being in themselves
1 Eph. v. 4. 2 Cant. v. 5. 3 iv. 3. 4 i. 15. 5 vii. 4.
6 Ihere is no mention of earrings in the Canticles, but S.
Francis
probably was writing from memory. ai.id had in mind "Thy cheeks
are comely with rows cf jewels, thy neck with chains of gold."
(i. 10.)
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downright acts of impurity. Anything which
tends to lessen its intense senitiveness, or to
cast the slightest shadow over it, is of this
nature; and all evil thoughts or foolish acts of
levity or heedlessness are as steps towards the
most direct breaches of the law of chastity.
Avoid the society of persons who are wanting in
purity, especially if they are bold, as indeed
impure people always are. If a foul animal
licks the sweet almond tree its fruit becomes
bitter; and so a corrupt pestilential man
can scarcely hold communication with others,
whether men or women, without damaging their
perfect purity--their very glance is venomous,
and their breath blighting like the basilisk. On
the other hand, seek out good and pure men,
read and ponder holy things; for the Word of
God is pure, and it will make those pure who
study it: wherefore David likens it to gold and
precious stones. 1 Always abide close to Jesus
Christ Crucified, both spiritually in meditation
and actually in Holy Communion; for as all those
who sleep upon the plant called Agnus castus
become pure and chaste, so, if you rest your
heart upon Our Dear Lord, the Very Lamb,
Pure and Immaculate, you will find that soon
both heart and soul will be purified of all spot
or stain.
1 Ps. cxix. 127.
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CHAPTER XIV.
On Poverty of Spirit amid Riches.
" BLESSED are the poor in spirit, for theirs
is the Kingdom of God;" 1 and if so,
woe be to the rich in spirit, for theirs must be
the bitterness of hell. By rich in spirit I mean
him whose riches engross his mind, or whose
mind is buried in his riches. He is poor in
spirit whose heart is not filled with the love of
riches, whose mind is not set upon them. The
halcyon builds its nest like a ball, and leaving
but one little aperture in the upper part, launches
it on the sea, so secure and impenetrable, that
the waves carry it along without any water getting
in, and it floats on the sea, superior, so to say, to
the waves. And this, my child, is what your heart
should be--open only to heaven, impenetrable to
riches and earthly treasures. If you have them,
keep your heart from attaching itself to them;
let it maintain a higher level, and amidst riches
be as though you had none,--superior to them.
Do not let that mind which is the likeness of
God cleave to mere earthly goods; let it always
be raised above them, not sunk in them.
There is a wide difference between having
poison and being poisoned. All apothecaries
1 S. Matt. v. 3.
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have poisons ready for special uses, but they
are not consequently poisoned, because the
poison is only in their shop, not in themselves;
and so you may possess riches without being
poisoned by them, so long as they are in your
house or purse only, and not in your heart. It
is the Christian's privilege to be rich in material
things, and poor in attachment to them, thereby
having the use of riches in this world and the
merit of poverty in the next.
Of a truth, my daughter, no one will ever own
themselves to be avaricious;--every one denies
this contemptible vice:--men excuse themselves
on the plea of providing for their children, or
plead the duty of prudent forethought:--they
never have too much, there is always some good
reason for accumulating more; and even the
most avaricious of men not only do not own to
being such, but sincerely believe that they are
not; and that because avarice is as a strong
fever which is all the less felt as it rages most
fiercely. Moses saw that sacred fire which burnt
the bush without consuming it, 1 but the profane
fire of avarice acts precisely the other way,--it
consumes the miser, but without burning, for,
amid its most intense heat, he believes himself
to be deliciously cool, and imagines his insatiable thirst to be merely natural and right.
1 Exod. iii. 2.
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If you long earnestly, anxiously, and persistently after what you do not possess, it is all
very well to say that you do not wish to get it
unfairly, but you are all the time guilty of
avarice. He who longs eagerly and anxiously
to drink, though it may be water only, thereby
indicates that he is feverish. I hardly think
we can say that it is lawful to wish lawfully to
possess that which is another's:--so doing we
surely wish our own gain at the expense of that
other? and he who possesses anything lawfully,
surely has more right to possess it, than we to
obtain it? Why should we desire that which is
his? Even were the wish lawful, it is not
charitable, for we should not like other men to
desire what we possess, however lawfully. This
was Ahab's sin when he sought to acquire
Naboth's vineyard by lawful purchase, when
Naboth lawfully desired to keep it himself;--he
coveted it eagerly, continually, and anxiously,
and so doing he displeased God. 1
Do not allow yourself to wish for that which
is your neighbour's until he wishes to part with
it,--then his wish will altogether justify yours,--
and I am quite willing that you should add to
your means and possessions, provided it be not
merely with strict justice, but kindly and
charitably done.
I Kings xxi.
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If you cleave closely to your possessions, and
are cumbered with them, setting your heart and
thoughts upon them, and restlessly anxious lest
you should suffer loss, then, believe me, you are
still somewhat feverish;--for fever patients drink
the water we give them with an eagerness and
satisfaction not common to those who are well.
It is not possible to take great pleasure in
anything without becoming attached to it. If
you lose property, and find yourself grievously
afflicted at the loss, you may be sure that you
were warmly attached to it;--there is no surer
proof of affection for the thing lost than our
sorrow at its loss.
Therefore, do not fix your longings on anything which you do not possess; do not let your
heart rest in that which you have; do not grieve
overmuch at the losses which may happen to
you;--and then you may reasonably believe
that although rich in fact, you are not so in
affection, but that you are poor in spirit, and
therefore blessed, for the Kingdom of Heaven
is yours.
CHAPTER XV.
How to exercise real Poverty, although actually Rich.
THE painter Parrhasius drew an ingenious
and imaginative representation of the
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Athenians, ascribing sundry opposite qualities
to them, calling them at once capricious,
irascible, unjust, inconstant, courteous, merciful,
compassionate, haughty, vain-glorious, humble,
boastful, and cowardly;--and for my part, dear
daughter, I would fain see united in your heart
both riches and poverty, a great care and a
great contempt for temporal things.
Do you take much greater pains than is the
wont of worldly men to make your riches useful
and fruitful? Are not the gardeners of a prince
more diligent in cultivating and beautifying the
royal gardens than if they were their own?
Wherefore? Surely because these gardens are
the king's, to whom his gardeners would fain
render an acceptable service. My child, our
possessions are not ours,--God has given them
to us to cultivate, that we may make them fruitful
and profitable in His Service, and so doing we
shall please Him. And this we must do more
earnestly than worldly men, for they look carefully after their property out of self-love, and we
must work for the love of God. Now self-love
is a restless, anxious, over-eager love, and so the
work done on its behalf is troubled, vexatious,
and unsatisfactory;--whereas the love of God
is calm, peaceful, and tranquil, and so the work
done for its sake, even in worldly things, is
gentle, trustful, and quiet. Let us take such
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a quiet care to preserve, and even when
practicable to increase, our temporal goods,
according to the duties of our position,--this is
acceptable to God for His Love's Sake.
But beware that you be not deceived by selflove, for sometimes it counterfeits the Love of
God so cleverly that you may mistake one for the
other. To avoid this, and to prevent a due
care for your temporal interests from degenerating into avarice, it is needful often to practise a
real poverty amid the riches with which God
has endowed you.
To this end always dispose of a part of your
means by giving them heartily to the poor; you
impoverish yourself by whatever you give away.
It is true that God will restore it to you, not
only in the next world, but in this, for nothing
brings so much temporal prosperity as free almsgiving, but meanwhile, you are sensibly poorer
for what you give. Truly that is a holy and rich
poverty which results from almsgiving.
Love the poor and poverty,--this love will
make you truly poor, since, as Holy Scripture
says, we become like to that we love. 1 Love
makes lovers equal. "Who is weak and I am not
weak ?" 2 says St. Paul? He might have said,
Who is poor and I am not poor? for it was
1 "Their abominations were according as they loved." Hosea
ix. 10. 2 Cor. xi. 29.
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love which made him like to those he loved;
and so, if you love the poor, you will indeed
share their poverty, and be poor like them.
And if you love the poor, seek them out,
take pleasure in bringing them to yotir home,
and in going to theirs, talk freely with them,
and be ready to meet them, whether in Church
or elsewhere. Let your tongue be poor with
them in converse, but let your hands be rich to
distribute out of your abundance. Are you prepared to go yet further, my child? not to stop
at being poor like the poor, but even poorer
still? The servant is not so great as his lord;
do you be the servant of the poor, tend their
sickbed with your own hands, be their cook,
their needlewoman. O my daughter, such
servitude is more glorious than royalty ! How
touchingly S. Louis, one of the greatest of
kings, fulfilled this duty; serving the poor in
their own houses, and daily causing three to eat
at his own table, often himself eating the remains
of their food in his loving humility. In his
frequent visits to the hospitals he would select
those afflicted with the most loathsome diseases,
ulcers, cancer, and the like; and these he
would tend, kneeling down and bare-headed,
beholding the Saviour of the world in them, and
cherishing them with all the tenderness of a
mother's love. Saint Elizabeth of Hungary
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used to mix freely with the poor, and liked to
dress in their homely garments amid her gay
ladies. Surely these royal personages were
poor amid their riches and rich in poverty.
Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the
Kingdom of Heaven. In the Day of Judgment
the King of prince and peasant will say to them,
"I was an hungred, and ye gave Me meat, I was
naked, and ye clothed Me; come, inherit the
Kingdom prepared for you from the foundation
of the world." 1
Everybody finds themselves sometimes deficient in what they need, and put to inconvenience. A guest whom we would fain receive
honotirably arrives, and we cannot entertain him
aswe would; we want our costly apparel in one
place, and it all happens to be somewhere else:
all the wine in our cellar suddenly turns sour:
we find ourselves accidentally in some country
place where everything is wanting, room, bed,
food, attendance: in short, the richest people
may easily be without something they want, and
that is practically to suffer poverty. Accept
such occurrences cheerfully, rejoice in them,
bear them willingly.
Again, if you are impoverished much or little
by unforeseen events, such as storm, flood, fire,
drought, theft, or lawsuit; then is the real time
1 S. Matt. xxv. 34-36.